About NLP

NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), originally developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, is a system of methods and techniques that help to change your internal thought processes and emotional habits and thereby change your behavioural habits. Neuro refers to the nervous system (the mind).  Language refers to our communication, including non-verbal communication.  And programming refers to the programmes that we run (our thought, emotional and behavioural patterns) in our neurological systems to achieve specific and desired outcomes.

Your unconscious mind serves to protect you and sometimes you may hold on to an issue or negative behaviour because you have an unconscious erroneous belief that the issue or unwanted behaviour in someway serves you. 

In NLP, this is referred to as a ‘secondary gain’.  a secondary gain is when something positive comes from a negative.  For example, having a cold and feeling ill is a negative but having a reason to relax, lie in bed all day and miss that presentation at work may be what you really want.